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Until I was in junior high, I didn’t know anyone who was adopted, except for my brother. Perhaps that was because my mother frowned on us telling anyone we were adopted. It was kind of obvious…my brother and I are only two months apart in age and we are as different as night and day. We were a mismatched family. My first adopted friend, Pam and I have stayed connected as good friends all these years.

Interestingly, it wasn’t until I was going through the hardest time in my life, Betty, a birth mother, came along beside me offering her continuous love, support and encouragement. Up until that time, I had not known anyone personally who placed their child for adoption. Betty and I have stayed connected as good friends for many years as well. Although, we don’t talk as often anymore, we are still deeply connected.

Last night, I received a message from my friend, Betty. I have felt sad for her; I knew that her husband had died this past year. But it was sharing her birth daughter’s words that brought tears of happiness for her, “I have found my Christmas Spirit and it didn’t come from a store. My mother is coming to spend Christmas with me.”

As a true definition of what friendship means to me, Betty followed her beautiful message with, “I hope you receive a Christmas miracle, too.”

I believe I already received mine many years ago, when my birth mother friend came into my life at just the right time. I love you Betty!

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  • david says:

    beautiful story

  • Judy Sickler says:

    I’m so glad you had a miracle in your friend, Betty. Hoping you have another miracle soon!

  • Val says:

    We have a God who is a God of Miracles….and not just at Christmas! I feel another one coming your way soon!
    merry Christmas Bestest!
    Love to you and the wonderful Bennet Family!

  • becky says:

    I lost my 32 yo Son Matthew 19 months ago to renal cell carcinoma, He only lived 6 months from diagnosis to death, I have found no meaning in Christmas or most anything for theses past 19 months, until yesterday morning when I read my cousin Betty’s words that she had found a Christmas Miracle and that her Mother would be spending Christmas with her for the very first time. The “Betty” that has been your friend for all these years, is my Aunt Betty and my dear Mothers youngest sister & my Son Matthew’s Great Aunt as well.
    My mother, Thelma also passed away nearly 14 years ago. My mother loved Christmas, even when times were tough and little money was had, She always found a way to make us all enjoy the miracles of Christmas time. So as I am extremely excited and happy for my Aunt Betty & my cousin Betty at the same time I am also being a bit selfish and hopping on their “band wagon” and have found a bit of my own Christmas Miracle in theirs….I believe that Our loved ones, or as I call them “My Angels in Heaven”, My Mom, My Son and My Uncle Ed, and many of the rest of our family who have passed have all gotten together and helped make this Christmas Miracle happen for my Aunt Betty and Cousin Betty . I have not been on speaking terms with “God” since I lost my sweet Son Matthew, but maybe, just maybe somewhere amidst all my pain I might start believing in Miracles again….
    May you all have a Merry Christmas, Much love, light and peace to all 🙂

  • For all the shadows you have had cast on you, you have an amazing ability to attract people of light to you. Here’s to Betty, here’s to long friendships, here’s to connections manifest and now, and here’s to abiding with people who are going through a dark dark time.

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  1. Well written! Thanks for sharing I really connected with this one. Peace and Love!
  2. So sad, what a terrible experience. and I know it was only one of many for you. Love you friend!!!
  3. This fills me with sadness: “No child should have to continually try to make a parent love them.” What a tragedy that your mother was not able to accept love from you. My guess is that deep down, she didn’t feel lovable, and she had to cover that shameful fact up with a bunch of br…
  4. It’s insane that these findings were made but nothing was done about it. All these years later, you are still waiting for the wrongs to be righted.
  5. I love you❤