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Not a Feather Lighter

Not a Feather Lighter

October 6th

I don’t really think “the son” knew where I fit on the family tree as a relative from his father’s wife’s first family, but he wasn’t at all cautious in what he shared candidly in our phone conversation. How do you explain to a total stranger? “After my father divorced his first wife…years later obviously she married your dad. And my father married my adopted mother. But I didn’t know anything about my dad’s first wife, children and grandchildren, or did I?”

The son said that in the 14 years his dad was married to my father’s ex-wife, he had only met her daughter once. He described her as being “out there.” Clearly something was wrong with her, but again, it was one of those hush-hush secrets that he didn’t seem to have any real solid answers about either. The man also said that his step-mom had to keep bailing her out of trouble. When she would leave a group home abruptly, her mother had to often go back and pay for her stay. With a little irritation in his voice, he blurted out that the doctor-dad had left her some kind of trust for over $300,000 for the Salvation Army to take care of their daughter, after the death of her mother. He didn’t have a clue that was my father, too.

I remember hanging up the phone looking at my husband as if I had just seen a ghost from my past. I cried out, “Oh, please, it can’t be that same young woman who came to the door appearing higher than a kite after my grandpa passed away asking to speak to her grandfather.” As far as I knew, my father was an only child. But again, my father wouldn’t tell me the truth. The “flighty as a feather” girl at the door seemed closer to the age I was as a college student at the time. The daughter that the man was talking about on the phone would have made us 16 years apart in age.

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  1. So sad, what a terrible experience. and I know it was only one of many for you. Love you friend!!!
  2. This fills me with sadness: “No child should have to continually try to make a parent love them.” What a tragedy that your mother was not able to accept love from you. My guess is that deep down, she didn’t feel lovable, and she had to cover that shameful fact up with a bunch of br…
  3. It’s insane that these findings were made but nothing was done about it. All these years later, you are still waiting for the wrongs to be righted.
  4. I love you❤
  5. I hope you are able to find more on the first chapters of your life. How twisty things became when people had to hide things…ugh. Sad.