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Bigger-Than-Life Fathers

October 2nd

I can still picture at the age of 6 standing up on the kitchen counter putting dishes away and singing, “Mommy is going to marry a new daddy.” Towering over me at 6-foot 7-inches, my new father was bigger than life. Twirling around in a beautiful dress with a poufy skirt, I was his little princess. He sat with his long legs sprawled out from underneath a child’s table while the two of us enjoyed a grape juice tea party.

My princess dress and a tea set was the first and last time my new daddy would pick out a gift especially for me. From then on, my adoptive mother would control the direction of our budding relationship.

I wonder, to a young girl who had already lost her birth parents as a newborn, and her first adoptive father to his alcoholism and domestic violence at a tender age, if any new “father” that had appeared out of the blue holding a suitcase in one hand with a mysterious doll tucked under his other arm, would have won me over.

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  • I love the image of him putting all 79 inches of himself on the floor with you for tea.

    I’m sad that your mother didn’t allow that to happen again 🙁

  • Bless you, JoAnne, as you share your thoughts and heart in your blog post. Thank you for letting me know about this. Sorry to be late responding but am out of town. May your writing, God’s love and the love of others help bring comfort to you. That is a sweet picture, and yours is a very special story.

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  1. So sad, what a terrible experience. and I know it was only one of many for you. Love you friend!!!
  2. This fills me with sadness: “No child should have to continually try to make a parent love them.” What a tragedy that your mother was not able to accept love from you. My guess is that deep down, she didn’t feel lovable, and she had to cover that shameful fact up with a bunch of br…
  3. It’s insane that these findings were made but nothing was done about it. All these years later, you are still waiting for the wrongs to be righted.
  4. I love you❤
  5. I hope you are able to find more on the first chapters of your life. How twisty things became when people had to hide things…ugh. Sad.