A Giant Leap of Faith

A Giant Leap of Faith


WORD OF WARNING: Don’t go with me to find the perfect card!

If I ask one of my daughters or my husband if they want to go shopping, they always want clarification first. “You don’t need to find a card, right?”

Let the truth be known—Hallmark and I have a strong bond. I can spend literally hours reading through the different sentiments to see which one fits any of my family or friends to a tee. No wonder my husband has no problem renewing my online greeting card subscriptions. Having the opportunity to write stanzas for cards is on my bucket list.

Trying to breeze through Mother’s Day is a giant leap of faith for me. Someday, I know that the complicated loss of my adoptive mother, and learning my natural mother passed away when I was a little girl, won’t hurt quite as much. But as of yet, the card stores and I are not on the best of terms during this time of the year. At any cost, I will avoid all Mother’s Day commercialism.

Let me share a story with you. When I was growing up, I would pick out for my adoptive mother what I thought was the most perfect, beautiful card. With hopeful anticipation, I would watch as she opened it. Invariably she would say, “That’s nice. But you don’t really mean it do you?” Then I would see only her biological child’s card sitting out on display with mine nowhere to be found.

Over the years, my loved ones and well-meaning friends will say, “JoAnne, you are just going to have to let it go and forgive.” The term “forgive” is such a difficult word for me. Yes, at times I do still feel this indescribable sadness and disappointment in my heart. No child in this world should have to continually try to make a parent love them. I missed out on what real love feels like from a mother.

I have come a long way in my journey and knowing my truth. Believe me, I am gradually inching much closer to that forgiveness part. There are still so many feelings I needed to tell my adoptive mother before she passed away. When I can finally write these thoughts down in one last perfect card, I know I will have found my closure.

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  • val says:

    And through this struggle my friend, you have persevered and became a beautiful, courageous and loving mother to three magnificent daughters. you’re the best. happy Mother’s Day my friend!

  • Roz Larson says:

    You were so robbed as a child. To be put down and disregarded in such a way, my heart hurts for you. The hurt child in a person can never be fully healed but I applaud you for your determination to find the truth and believe in yourself and work toward forgiveness. Love you friend!!

  • Julie Love says:

    I know how hard it has been for you but take heart that despite that you managed to be a wonderful person and mother. Blessings to you, lots of love, Julie

  • Lorene Fairchild says:

    I’ll go card shopping with you! I love cards and I can spend hours in Hallmark! They love me there!

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  1. So sad, what a terrible experience. and I know it was only one of many for you. Love you friend!!!
  2. This fills me with sadness: “No child should have to continually try to make a parent love them.” What a tragedy that your mother was not able to accept love from you. My guess is that deep down, she didn’t feel lovable, and she had to cover that shameful fact up with a bunch of br…
  3. It’s insane that these findings were made but nothing was done about it. All these years later, you are still waiting for the wrongs to be righted.
  4. I love you❤
  5. I hope you are able to find more on the first chapters of your life. How twisty things became when people had to hide things…ugh. Sad.