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The Silent Voices

The Silent Voices

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Sitting proudly on the seat of my first bicycle, a “refurbished junk yard special,” I yelled back excitedly to the silhouette standing in the driveway. “Look Daddy, watch me, I can ride my two-wheeler all by myself!” As I rode off feeling confident, with a 6-year old-toothless grin, I wonder if I knew this would be the last memory of my father. A short time later, my parents divorced and I never saw him again. Recently, one of my brothers and I talked candidly about our father. For years, I thought I felt nothing for this “long-ago daddy.” We spoke, openly, unafraid of hurting anyone with our true feelings. Tears trickled down my cheeks as my brother tried to reassure me that our father had once loved me, his little girl. In my mind, I wanted to run through the overgrown weeds of sadness to his grave, crying freely for…

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The Replacement Doll

The Replacement Doll

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I took the doll off the shelf tonight and held her for the first time in many years. It’s amazing how healing it has been for that once little girl in me to finally have a voice and be able to share it through my writing. excerpt from my story in the book: “A number of years ago, I received a Christmas present from my adoptive mother — a brand-new, expensive, 125-year anniversary doll, a look-alike to the one she had discarded. Through my tears, I tried to pretend that it was the most thoughtful gift. I knew she meant well, but neither of us had truly understood what the other one desired. I felt a deep, agonizing loss; I had needed her to give me something of herself.” If you are an adoptee or know of anyone who might benefit and be encouraged from reading others’ adoption journeys, I…

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Book Interview with Lynn Grubb

Book Interview with Lynn Grubb

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Lynn Grubb, editor of The Adoptee Survival Guide: Adoptees Share Their Wisdom and Tools, and I became friends back when we were paired together to do blog interviews for another anthology for which we had both contributed essays. We had fun doing our interviews the first time; so decided we would go for it again. I would love to see her answers to my interview questions reach as many adoptees as possible that would not necessarily hear otherwise about this wonderful book being a helpful resource. Thank you for sharing! 1. Picture yourself standing on a busy street corner holding a poster as the “The Book Lady.” (We know how much you love reading) Tell us what you would write on a poster you were holding to encourage perfect strangers to want to read the book you had just published? “Do you know or love someone who is adopted?” 2….

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